(Up) Rooted

Divorce doesn't just separate two people-it reshapes an entire family.

For grandparents, that shift can be confusing, painful, and deeply uncertain. You may want to help, but worry about saying the wrong thing. You may fear losing time with your grandchildren or being pulled into conflicts between parents. Most of all, you may wonder how to protect the relationships that matter most.

(Up) Rooted is the first guide for grandparents grounded in family systems science, attachment research, and trauma-informed practice, helping them support both their adult children and grandchildren through divorce. Clinical psychologist Dr. Deborah Gilman shows how grandparents can become stabilizing anchors during family transition-buffering stress, protecting relationships, and strengthening resilience across generations.

In this compassionate and practical guide, you'll learn how to:

Support your adult child through divorce without escalating family conflict

Stay meaningfully connected with your grandchildren across two homes

Understand the emotional and developmental impact of divorce on children

Avoid being pulled into loyalty conflicts between parents

Maintain family traditions and stability during times of transition

Communicate with empathy while respecting boundaries

Help interrupt cycles of generational stress and trauma

Divorce may reshape a family-but it does not have to break it.

When grandparents understand their role within the family system, they can become one of the most powerful sources of resilience a child has.